Be well. That makes me think that Oliver only settled with this woman because he couldn’t have the true love of his life. It’s a perfectly calibrated scene in a film full of them, and it’s one of a million reasons why “Call Me By Your Name” is far and away the best movie of the year. Oliver and Elio’s relationship isn’t predatory or exploitive. I was 12 when I saw my first R rated movie in theatres and went all the time throughout my teens.). **In these times many are fine and freely let teens and children view films with these types of events, some the total oppisite**. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts More posts from the callmebyyourname community, A place to celebrate and discuss Call Me By Your Name--the novel by Andre Aciman and the film by Luca Guadagnino, Press J to jump to the feed. It's a new relationship and I still don't feel secure in it. And since my industry has been decimated by the pandemic and there are basically no jobs out there, I've found myself at a similar turning point as the one I was at when I wrote this three years ago. Right now there’s sorrow. hide. I appreciated your taking this cmbyn experience around a different corner but had no way to upvote. I don't know if this makes sense at all. Armie’s even said his interpretation of their relationship is that they are soulmates. 100. The movie reminded me of those hopeful feelings you have when you’re innocent and the let downs. Thank you so much for your answer. Are you more Elio or more Oliver? I don’t know if a thirteen-year-old would fully understand the nuances of why Elio and Oliver’s relationship is okay, but a lot of relationships with the same age dynamic are not. The depth and wealth of influences it draws from, not only from the adapted source material, but from the other parts of the film itself as well, combine to create something that has a long and lasting effect on people, something that can be studied and analyzed repeatedly. Played 105 times. This movie really helped me process my first love in a way I never had before. 'Call Me by Your Name' is a touching portrait of a relationship between two men in Northern Italy in the early 1980s. This Study Guide consists of approximately 38 pages of chapter summaries, quotes, character analysis, themes, and more - everything you need to sharpen your knowledge of Call Me by Your Name. Call Me by Your Name, the latest film from Italian director Luca Guadagnino, is a study in mood and emotion. ... Love to hear your thoughts. 13+ is OK by me.I think viewing this film may be an excellent lesson for a thirteen year old. It made me realize the importance of parent support in adolescence. Most see the rating by itself and decide from that, but the letters and numbers don't give any information. Difficulty: Average. I have no hate towards the production... this is simply my perspective... ._. As a friendly stranger who’s been in your shoes, be wary of setting your standards too high. Showing all 30 items Jump to: Certification; Sex & Nudity (21) Violence & Gore (2) Profanity (2) Alcohol, Drugs & Smoking (4) Frightening & Intense Scenes (1) Certification. In the world of “Call Me by Your Name,” a summer spent in Northern Italy in the early 1980s is a slice of pure and absolute heaven on Earth. (An R-rated motion picture, in the view of the Rating Board, contains adult material.) I was silly , I wore my heart on my sleeve hoping for that bond that Oliver and Elio found. , For me it made me realise how much I wish I had a love like theirs, and how I will never be able to settle for anything less. He talked about his new marriage and his new life. There is no down side in feeling hurt, because feeling something means that you're alive. Anyways it's complicated to find a way to rate films because how they are age rated, is by simply numbers and letters. Or both? In fact, I've never re-listened to an audiobook (although I have a few on my list). In general, it depends on if the caregiver has or not given the example**/**tought their offspring to tolerate events like these in any film. Maturity ratings and classifications on Netflix: Maturity ratings are either set by Netflix or by a local standards organization. Thank you for your answer. MPAA: Rated R for sexual content, nudity and some language: Certification: This movie put me back into my 17th year, obsessing, over analyzing, yearning, lusting, loving, and eventually losing. Call Me By Your Name (2017) (1366) Call Me By Your Name - All Media Types (1088) Call Me by Your Name - André Aciman (809) Call Me By Your Name (2017) RPF (457) Actor RPF (37) American (US) Actor RPF (34) Sherlock (TV) (13) Harry Potter - J. K. Rowling (12) Real Person Fiction (7) Marvel Cinematic Universe (7) Include Characters I saw the movie again yesterday and every time I feel the same things as the first time, It’s pure and intense, watching it is like getting lost in a dream. TV show ratings reflect the overall maturity level of the whole series. The R rating is typical American prudishness. It gave me the vocabulary to describe what I was feeling and allowed me to relate it to other people. The chemistry between the men is palpable, but what's more important, they convey their characters' complex emotions, expectations and thoughts without necessarily opening their … Have you reached a new awareness? Edit: When I was writing the post I was focusing and only reffering to the sexual and suggestive themes are frequent and prominent in this film such as masturbation, sex, both female and male nudity. The (MPAA) rates Call Me By Your Name R for sexual content, nudity and some language. age gap and the list went on. We use cookies on our websites for a number of purposes, including analytics and performance, functionality and advertising. André Aciman. I think that anyone can feel as Elio as anyone can feel as Oliver. That's a beautiful thought. Call Me by Your Name is a great love story, and it is also a story about the way that Guadagnino’s camera loves and brings out Hammer as an actor who … I would still try to be open to new connections (if they’re with nice people of course) even if they don’t immediately strike you as magical. But real connections never are like that. Call Me by Your Name (Italian: Chiamami col tuo nome) is a 2017 coming-of-age romantic drama film directed by Luca Guadagnino. https://www.reddit.com/r/callmebyyourname/comments/8goufk/perhaps_i_am_affected. I am bothered that Call Me By Your Name is rated for a 13+ audience on Netflix for my country. How you live your life is your business. I managed the first 4 minutes (2 of them relating to this young lady’s sponsor), instead it brought the worst out of me; I was so tempted to be patronising, insulting and superior in my comments about this absolutely incoherent drivel…!!! I don’t think she’d even watched the trailer… As for previous comments (it was an old post – maybe a couple of years old); more drivel and descriptions of the film that made me think we’d watched a completely different film! I awoke with a huge realization and connection to CMBYN. Thank you for your answer, I really relate to that and I think It's beautiful that a movie could create this kind of deep connection between people. Happy to not have to deal with 60 hours a week of abuse, gaslighting, toxicity, sexism, endless stress, and an offensively low salary anymore. Let me know what you think! The Call Me By Your Name quiz. And before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. But this has highlighted once again, that “non-problem” of age related arguments that are often brought up regarding the film. 11. Who wrote the book Call Me By Your Name? Umberto Eco « » Log in or sign up. It helped me understand that it was ok to be gay or bi and that it's still possible to find love. She had no clue whatsoever of the story…??? Call Me by Your Name is short on dialogue and long on emoting. The first time that I watched the film I was 16 and I felt like a could almost have been elio (although I wouldn't have been anywhere near as brave as he was). And it was so beautifully sad to relive it one more time. I spent even more days journaling out my thoughts, and it did bring me a sense of closure from this first love that I never thought I would have. Have you reached a new awareness? The novel chronicles their summer romance and the 20 years that follow. Allow yourself to feel! Sweet melancholy. Just like the ending of CMBYN, I found myself in the future talking to a lost love. If anyone has seen the film “Clueless” that will give you an idea of the reaction I was watching. I lost my job in December, and while being unemployed is awful and terrifying, the job I had for the last two and a half years was more horrible than I can possibly put into words so it was kind of a blessing in disguise. Maybe the last decade of my life in this field was the traviamento. I woke up that morning in tears. I feel like I knew for at least a few year before watching cmbyn but I never really accepted it or even really understood what I felt but watching this movie it really made me think. I am Italian and the mood of the movie, the settings, the noises of nature, the music, remind me deeply of my summers when I was younger. ‘Til he said, “Call me by your name and I’ll call you by mine,” which I’d never done in my life before and which, as soon as I said my own name as though it were his, took me to a realm I never shared with anyone in my life before, or since.’ – p. 134 Did you find any book or movie that come close to CMBYN? I think this is the first film with gay (or bi) characters in that I actually felt a connection to and that felt like real people. Watch Call Me by Your Name on Amazon Prime –– free with Prime Video here → Call Me by Your Name can be described as many things: a coming of age tale of desire, a subtle take on both the Jewish and expatriate experiences, an unpretentious and honest look at sexual identity, and an ode to self-discovery in the eighties. As of Mar 14 21. Also, CMBYN gave me hope. It's always bothered me that many think sheltering children helps them some way. As an important piece of LGBTQ fiction, 'Call Me By Your Name' serves as a truly moving piece that is more than just a love story. Yes! r/callmebyyourname: A place to celebrate and discuss Call Me By Your Name--the novel by Andre Aciman and the film by Luca Guadagnino Press J to jump to the feed. I still have moments of despair and emptiness, but most of the times I can look back with a smile. S O C I A L M E D I Ainstagram: wasab3twitter: eunsooooktumblr: eunsooook I agree. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. The new film by Luca Guadagnino, “Call Me by Your Name,” begins in the summer of 1983, in a place so enchanted, with … I could never stay up until 4 am singing on the streets of Rome for him! Thank you for your answer! None of these featured events in the movie that are disturbing/inapropriate **especialy for that starting age rating**, are noted in it's description, (the words that pop up under the age rating when you begin the movie). But during the restless summer weeks that follow, unrelenting buried currents of obsession and fear, f Personally I see in Elio years of my adolescence, my struggles to understand my identity, the innocence and pain of love. I know, it might not make much sense, but it does for me. Some will be inspired, some will be intimidated and bored, and some will be hardened. Remember, our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. gone. An R rating in the US is 17 and up, unless you're with a parent or guardian. Christy reviewed films for The Associated Press for over 14 years. I won’t put it on here but it pointed out what everyone had basically missed and a very strong criticism telling them saying that the “Elio character” was not a minor in Italy and that HE was the protagonist. I feel the exact same way as you do. . Average score for this quiz is 6 / 10. But this book was so lush and so layered… So much is conveyed in a good story from emotion and history to developments and... existence? 1. Romance. 42. Here's something I wrote on this topic almost 3 years ago. I wish all the best to you in deeply loving yourself. 44. This movie also made me feel so seen. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, https://www.reddit.com/r/callmebyyourname/comments/8goufk/perhaps_i_am_affected. Netflix sets maturity ratings by the frequency and impact of mature content in a title, such as the amount of violence, sex, adult language, nudity, or substance use that may be present. Check out 9 books like 'Call Me By Your Name.' As many have stated already, the movie, then the book and then Find Me, made me realize that there was nothing wrong in being myself, but most importantly in feeling hurt, or in having feelings and showing them to people around me. It makes a lot of sense! I wouldn’t let a thirteen-year-old watch CMBYN. Actually, I listened to it again, which is practically unheard of for me. As a teenager, I envy Elio because he had a father who actively cared for his sexuality, love life and feelings. 18 comments. Like I go to bed at 11. It's a slow film, where not a lot happens, and I imagine their interest would wane, rather than be piqued. Good point though, thanks. We shall see. save. Even real love may not feel like the genuine article right away because respect and care take time to develop. report. Do ratings matter at all on Netflix . I’m not familiar with US age ratings for films (I’m in Britland) I agree that early teens wouldn’t even be interested in the film. That was the basis of my whole interpretation. “Maybe it was the alcohol, maybe it was the truth, maybe I didn't want things to turn abstract, but I felt I should say it, because this was the moment to say it, because it suddenly dawned on me that this was why I had come, to tell him 'You are the only person I'd like to say goodbye to when I die, because only then will this thing I call my life make any sense. I feel it helped me recognise and accept the fact that I am gay. Christy Lemire. Call Me by Your Name is the story of a sudden and powerful romance that blossoms between an adolescent boy and a summer guest at his parents' cliff-side mansion on the Italian Riviera. Edit: I don’t want to be negative about cmbyn’s impact because it really has done so much good for me. the book in particular helped me so much when I did fall in love. Not sure if that makes sense lol. This is just for fun because I love the book so much, enjoy! Also, “Call me by your name and I’ll call you by mine.” and everything that entails. Honestly, it is just beautiful to look at, and it has the feeling of a memory, this charming look back into a summer in the eighties, and I loved that. I think a lot of 13 year olds would find it boring, rather than anything else. Well this film has changed my life quite a bit (I'm reading the book at the moment). It was just a free fall into love. The only reason I felt so disappointed is because I'm also starting to feel connected. Idk if this makes any sense, I’m a little stoney as I’m typing this. Quizzes | Create a quiz Progress: 1 of 10 questions . Heaven knows what they would have made of “Queer as Folk” USA too?! Oliver's confession. I had a crap day yesterday when my bf cancelled our plans. But i guess thats how the industry works. It made me realize that I have been lucky living something close to what happened to Elio & Oliver, and that sometimes things are great and good because they ended. Posted by 2 days ago. Edit. I pointed out that I have friends and acquaintances in very healthy same-sex marriages and relationships where the age gap is DECADES! Thank you for your answer. I am so hungry for more. For me, it wasn’t so much a life change as it was a new appreciation for story-telling. It’s about using the canvas of film to convey to the audience the inner feelings of the characters. But this is how CMBYN affected me. CMBYN is fine for a 13 year old to watch, though I imagine most 13 year olds probably wouldn't enjoy it much and would probably benefit from having an adult there to explain some stuff. Christy Lemire is a co-host of the YouTube film review show "What the Flick?!" I certainly don't know at this point. Up until this film every other gay character that I'd seen was the stereotypical token gesture gay man, so I'm my head that's what being gay ment. In the moment, nothing will ever feel like elio and Oliver’s love because it was made by people who tried to create the most perfect, pure, frictionless love (which we love them for doing). So, Call Me by Your Name really has a lot going for it when you take a closer look. I was thinking about that the other day actually, I don’t think that a thirteen year old should be watching that, maybe +16 would be better but I don’t know how they classify that kind of things and what are they based on, but yeah I definitely think it’s not ok to classify it as +13. I say let them learn.I only wish I'd known, at the age of thirteen, that getting turned on by someone is OK, but it's not all sweetness. What are your thoughts? . Call Me by Your Name (2017) Parents Guide Add to guide . share. Or do I start all over again? Also, I’d be very concerned that they’d come away from the movie with the impression that romantic/sexual relationship between teenagers and adults are okay across the board. A week after reading it for the first time, I read Call Me By Your Name again. Maybe I'm headed on another traviamento while I figure out what the hell I want to do in the future. Days and weeks went by and I found myself still thinking of this story. But I don´t think any 11-12 year old would watch it, but I actually don´t think they will traumatized because you have to be some what emotionally mature to understand the depth of the movie. Back to your point; “R” rating (13+) seems pretty reasonable to me, it’s certainly not a film for the Disney Channel and I for one think a person would be at least 15yrs to actually get anything out of it. The Hollywood Reporter Boyd van Hoeij. Almost feels creepy to say but I remember reading your original traviamento post back in probably December when gulping down that masterthread. What are your thoughts? It's time for another choice. After reading the book and watching the movie, I loved it so much and it had a great impact on me. But this film changed that, it showed that gay men weren't just the stereotypes, they could be smart and talented and so much more and it helped me recognise how I felt and helped me accept it. Call Me By Your Name Quiz. Ratings do/don't matter to people on Netflix, it depends. (Depending on what kind of theatre you're at--it's often not strongly enforced at smaller local theatres. Wish you the best. When watching Call Me By Your Name, it’s difficult to picture anyone but the scrawny, loveable Timothée Chalamet, and overwhelmingly charismatic Armie Hammer playing the main characters.The two play the roles of Elio and Oliver respectively – two young men in love in the Italian countryside. When I was that young I wanted that love and longing, quiet moments that left me content in enjoying my partners presence, but most of all I wanted to be wanted in the way Oliver wanted Elio. Oscars Best Picture Winners Best Picture Winners Golden Globes Emmys Women's History Month STARmeter Awards San Diego Comic-Con New York Comic-Con Sundance Film Festival Toronto Int'l Film Festival Awards Central Festival Central All Events It was interesting re-reading it and thinking about the end of my traviamento and how my life has gone since then (spoiler alert: not well). It took me several watches to understand why this movie had such an impact on me, but it helped me to finally, once and for all, honor and truly have closure. Call Me By Your Name is a masterful work because of the specificity of its details. I thought back to call me by your name and told myself don't close yourself off. The (MPAA) rates Call Me By Your Name R for sexual content, nudity and some language . I came across a reaction video on YouTube the other day that absolutely infuriated me! To reduce it down to just one of those would be wrong. I think I see myself more in Elio, I was very naive when I came out, I had an idealized view of love and hoped it would be what Elio had with Oliver. 42. I now find myself craving deeply developed books, movies, and tv shows because I want to reach that same feeling I had when I watched CMBYN the first time. They ranged from; promoting pedophilia, emotional abuse, predatory behaviour towards a minor, huge (?) Mr. Guadagnino’s latest, “Call Me by Your Name,” is another ravishment of the senses, though this time there’s a strong narrative tethering all the churning feelings and sensuous surfaces. Its screenplay, by James Ivory, who also co-produced, is based on the 2007 novel of the same name by André Aciman. Hope that there will always be a place, a person, a moment, a thing, that will make me feel at home. 13+ seems appropriate. Call Me By Your Name is a visually stunning movie. I don’t mind hearing opposing views about CMBYN even though I’m quite protective of it. Netflix also provides details on the mature content found within a TV show or movie, if applicable. More posts from the callmebyyourname community, A place to celebrate and discuss Call Me By Your Name--the novel by Andre Aciman and the film by Luca Guadagnino, Press J to jump to the feed. But a lot of the time in modern society, someone in their mid-twenties who has sex with a teenager isn’t a good person in love who cares about the teenager’s consent, happiness, and emotional well-being. From its website.. I'm so in love with this movie. It's ethereal. Pain. Call Me by Your Name is a 2007 novel by American writer André Aciman that centers on a blossoming romantic relationship between an intellectually precocious and curious 17-year-old American-Italian Jewish boy named Elio Perlman and a visiting 24-year-old American Jewish scholar named Oliver in 1980s Italy. It's a fucked up system because movies with extreme and horrific violence often skate by with a PG-13 rating (suggested not for children under 13 but no actual rule) wheareas movies with sex (especially gay sex), nudity, or swearing get rated R. There was a big outcry a few years ago because the movie Eighth Grade--a wonderful movie about a 13 year old girl--got rated R for swearing which meant that 13 year olds couldn't actually see it. Do I stay in this industry, taking another low-paying job that in all likelihood will make me miserable but at least will be in the field I always wanted to work in? (An R-rated motion picture, in the view of the Rating Board, contains adult material.) But Call Me By Your Name is beautifully shot, with an excellent understanding of framing, and fully confident in its control of its audience’s emotions with every trick of the light and sound. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame[3], don’t snuff it out[4], don’t be brutal with it. Patricia Highsmith. It’s about living in the moment and capturing that moment. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake[5] at night, and watching others forget[6] us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten[6] is no better. Having said that, the film’s budget was poor at a mere $3.5million. I realized I wasn’t the only person in the world whose whole world was completely consumed by another person, before we knew what it was like to love and to lose. The situation is different for every individual. One night I had a dream about my first love. What has moved you most? I deeply understand your feelings. We had met for the first time since we last seen each other in high school. Not enough material for an Action Figure…??? I also pointed that there was a VERY unhealthy fixation from many US contributors about the age gap. But it was more when elio and his father were reflecting and spewing golden wisdom then the plot itself. What is the name of the main character? As I wait for him to text me for our rescheduled date in 2 hours! ? Unprepared for the consequences of their attraction, at first each feigns indifference. My 13 year old watched this with me (I’ve already watched it) she knows when I say cover your eyes that’s it’s sexual content, I told her this at the Marzcia topless scene, Oliver and Elio scenes (midnight, come here and peach) I didn’t tell her at the bum scenes. People here who are full-grown adults have written about its effect on their emotional state, and I don’t know if a kid who’s barely a teenager would have the coping skills to deal with it. How has Call Me by your name changed your life or point of view? I am bothered that Call Me By Your Name is rated for a 13+ audience on Netflix for my country. What has moved you most? I wish I'd been more comfortable with sexual things instead of thinking physical contact was not right, not good, not acceptable. What do you know about this Best Picture nominee? After seeing that, I had to add a comment, a short one actually, which is well out-of-character for me… that then prompted an unintelligible response which I had to respond to. I thought it was going to be an honest reaction, far from it! From the get-go, their love for each other is profound; Hammer and Chalamet are fresh … spoiler. Drama. Anything else would seem an exaggeration to me. Even thoug deep down I am still aching, I now can appreciate things more. Wish you the best love in this life. Thank you so much for sharing this thought. Something always held me back or stood in the way. So good now I can. I've never been in love or had a boyfriend, but I really hope to someday come as close to a love like Elio's and Oliver's.
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